Why Am I Not Doing What I Want to Do? Breaking Through Your Internal Barriers

Have you ever found yourself asking this question? "Why am I not doing what I want to do?"

If so, you're not alone. This feeling of being stuck between your desires and your actions is one of the most common human experiences. It's that frustrating gap between knowing what you want and actually taking the steps to achieve it.

The Truth About Being Stuck

When you feel stuck, it's rarely about a lack of knowledge. In fact, you probably already know what you should be doing. The real challenge lies deeper—in your paradigms, those subconscious mental programs that control your habitual behavior.

As Bob Proctor often taught, "Your results always tell the truth." Looking at where you're currently stuck provides valuable insight into the paradigms that are controlling your behavior.

Clarity: The Essential First Step

One of the primary reasons people don't take action toward their dreams is a lack of clarity. When your goal remains vague or general, it fails to engage your emotions—and without emotional engagement, you won't feel compelled to act.

Here's what true clarity requires:

1. Detailed Visualization: Your goal needs to be specific enough that you can see, feel, and experience it in your mind.

2. Written Documentation: When you write down your dream in detail, the gaps and inconsistencies become visible. This written goal becomes a living document that evolves as you gain greater clarity.

3. Emotional Connection: A well-defined goal creates an inner drive that propels you forward naturally. If you don't feel that pull, your goal may need more development.

The Uncomfortable Truth About Avoidance

"The magic you are looking for lies in the work you are avoiding."

This powerful truth explains so much about being stuck. We often busy ourselves with less important tasks while avoiding the very actions that would create the breakthrough we desire.

What you avoid ultimately controls you. For some, it's making those sales calls. For others, it's having difficult conversations. For many, it's the false belief that they need to learn "just one more thing" before they can begin.

Ask yourself honestly: What important work am I avoiding right now?

The Threshold of Change

Change happens at a threshold—when the pain of staying the same exceeds the discomfort of making a change. Even when you logically know a change is beneficial, you may not act until the desire becomes emotional.

Your subconscious mind operates primarily on emotion, not logic. This explains why knowing what to do isn't enough—you must feel compelled to do it.

Obstacles as Opportunities

When I experienced a major job change, I initially viewed it as a setback blocking my progress. Later, I realized this "obstacle" was actually building me up, helping me recognize my worth as a consultant. What seemed like a disruption was actually clearing the path for something better.

Challenges in your life often serve two important purposes:

1. Awareness Development: Some obstacles appear to teach you essential lessons needed for your next step.

2. Necessary Clearing: Other challenges force you to remove habits, situations, or even relationships that are holding you back—changes you might have been reluctant to make on your own.

The best way to identify which paradigms need changing is to examine the results you're getting that you don't like, and work backward from there.

Your Path Forward

If you find yourself stuck between where you are and where you want to be, consider these steps:

1. Invest time in clarifying your goal with specific details

2. Identify what important work you might be avoiding

3. Examine what paradigms might be holding you back

4. Surround yourself with people who are doing what you aspire to do

Remember, transformation isn't just about acquiring more knowledge—it's about changing the subconscious patterns that control your behavior.

The journey from knowing to doing doesn't have to be traveled alone. In our Thinking Into Results program, we guide you through the proven 12-lesson process that has helped thousands break through their internal barriers and achieve the results they truly desire.

Are you ready to bridge the gap between what you know and what you do?

If so, its time to book a call with us, and see how you can bridge that gap faster!
Book your call at https://thinkingintogrowth.com/book

See you there!
Claes Valberg