Breaking Free From What's Holding You Back: A Guide to Achieving Your Goals

"Why am I not doing what I want to do?"

If you've ever asked yourself this question, you're not alone. That feeling of being stuck is something countless people experience, and it can stem from various sources: fear of failure, uncertainty about the path forward, lack of motivation, or simply not having clarity about what you truly want.

The Root of Your Stagnation

The truth that many of us don't want to face is this: The magic you're looking for lies in the work you're avoiding.

You might be busy with countless activities, filling your days with tasks that make you feel productive. Yet deep down, you're avoiding the essential work that feels uncomfortable or challenges you to step outside your comfort zone. As the saying goes, "What you avoid controls you." And this couldn't be more accurate.

For some, it's making those important calls to potential clients. For others, it's starting that big project they've been putting off. In my own experience, I've often convinced myself that I need to learn more or read another book before tackling the challenging work that makes me uncomfortable.

We've all been there—procrastinating and postponing the vital tasks we should be prioritizing.

Defining Your Worthy Goal

One of the most critical steps in breaking free from stagnation is defining your major worthy goal with absolute clarity. This requires dedicated thinking sessions and committing your dream to paper. Only then will all the necessary details begin to take shape.

Writing down your goals serves a powerful purpose: it makes the missing pieces visible. Consider this written goal a living document—one that will evolve as you gain clarity and make progress. When engaging in this process, it's essential to let go of limiting beliefs and others' opinions, focusing solely on what you genuinely want from life.

The Importance of Detail

A common mistake is creating goals that are too shallow or lacking in detail. While they might look good on paper, they won't engage your emotions—and emotions are what propel us forward. When you hit the right level of detail and identify goals that truly resonate with you, you'll feel an inner drive that naturally pushes you toward progress.

As Bob Proctor explained in his presentation, "The results that you have always tell the truth, and you can never escape from your own results." These results reflect your current paradigms—the mental programs controlling your habitual behavior.

Understanding Paradigms: The Mental Programs Controlling Your Results

Paradigms are at the core of why we often struggle to change our results. A paradigm is essentially a mental program in your subconscious mind that controls your habitual behavior. And as Bob Proctor points out, almost all of our behavior is habitual.

These paradigms influence:

• Your perception of reality

• How you use your time

• Your creativity

• Your effectiveness and productivity

• Your logical thinking

• Your ability to earn money

The challenge is that these paradigms were largely established early in life, many before you even had conscious control over them. They were programmed into your subconscious mind by your environment, the people around you, and your experiences.

The Transformation Process: From Struggle to Change

We often say that change happens when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of making a necessary change. However, emotional blockages can keep us stuck despite logically knowing a change would benefit us. The more obstacles and blockages we have, the more discomfort we may need to experience before taking action.

True change only occurs when it becomes emotional, not just logical. When your desire to change connects with your emotions, you'll finally take the necessary steps with full commitment.

Learning from Life's Storms

Consider my own experience with a major job change: At first, I saw it as a setback blocking me from achieving my goals. But I eventually realized this obstacle wasn't meant to hold me back—it was there to build me up. I discovered my true worth as a consultant and understood that this job was never meant to be permanent; it was a stepping stone to something greater.

Whenever you face a storm in life, remember it's not simply there to disrupt your progress. It may be shaking you awake, creating space for growth and new opportunities. In the moment, it might feel overwhelming, which relates directly to your comfort zone and potential lack of awareness.

For some people, storms appear as learning lessons; for others, they clear the path for something better. These challenges typically manifest in two ways:

1. Awareness Catalysts: Unexpected events force you to learn something essential for your next step.

2. Necessary Disruptions: Difficulties compel you to remove certain elements or people from your life that have been holding you back, replacing them with better habits and surrounding yourself with those who embody what you aspire to become.

Breaking Through Your Paradigms

The first step to changing your results is recognizing that your current paradigms are controlling your behavior. As Bob Proctor teaches in his "Thinking into Results" program, to change your results, you must first change your paradigms.

Remember that "it's not who you are that's holding you back; it's who you think you're not." There's something phenomenal within you, and when you learn to access it, everything begins to improve.

To break through limiting paradigms:

1. Identify your current results in areas you want to improve

2. Recognize the paradigms controlling those results

3. Build a new model that makes your existing paradigms obsolete

4. Focus on what you want, not what you don't want

5. Make committed decisions quickly and change them slowly, if at all

The Power of Decision

One of the most transformative concepts Bob Proctor shares is about decision-making. Successful people make decisions quickly and change them slowly, if at all. They don't need to gather extensive information because they've made a committed decision to think and act like the person they want to become.

When you make such a decision, you don't ask whether you have the money, time, or help. You simply decide that "this is going to be done." From that commitment, you begin to think on the frequency of what you want, attracting everything required to achieve it.

Want is the only prerequisite when making a decision. If you truly want to make things happen, follow the guidance provided by professionals who have walked this path. As Bob Proctor guarantees, if you follow what his consultants suggest, you will win.

Creating Multiple Sources of Income

One practical application of changing your paradigms involves your approach to earning money. Bob Proctor identifies three strategies for earning money, which he labels M1, M2, and M3:

1. M1 (Used by 96% of people): Trading time for money - This has a built-in limitation of time saturation.

2. M2 (Used by 3% of people): Investing money to earn money - Limited to those who already have money to invest.

3. M3 (Used by 1% of people who earn 96% of all money): Multiplying your time by setting up multiple sources of income.

The third strategy, which Proctor stumbled upon in the early 1960s, allowed him to go from earning virtually nothing to over a million dollars within five years. Through proper guidance, you could potentially turn your annual income into a monthly income by establishing multiple revenue streams.

Taking the Next Step

If you're feeling stuck and want to transform your results, consider joining our community and the "Thinking into Results" training program. This program, developed by Bob Proctor over more than 60 years, has helped tens of thousands of people change their thinking, modify their paradigms, and transform their results.

The training provides:

• Regular access to skilled coaches who will guide you through the process

• An interactive curriculum proven to work by thousands of people

• 12 motivating lessons spread over 24 weeks to help you take ownership of your direction

• Regular weekly meetings and FAQ sessions

• Lifetime access to all lectures and materials

Remember, the best way to change your paradigms is to identify the results you're getting that you don't like and work backward from there. With the right guidance and commitment, you can break free from what's holding you back and create the life you truly desire.

Are you ready to transform your thinking and your results? The journey begins with a decision—one that could change everything. Let´s talk!

Best Regards,

Claes Valberg