Trust in Yourself and Dare to Be What You Want to Be

Introduction: The Power of Self-Trust

Have you ever wondered what your life would look like if you fully trusted yourself? If you dared to pursue the vision of who you truly want to be, rather than following the predetermined paths others have laid out for you?

"Trust in yourself and dare to be what you want to be" might sound like a motivational phrase, but it represents something much deeper—a fundamental shift in how you perceive yourself and your potential. For many of us, especially professionals in our mid-career (35-50), this concept feels simultaneously liberating and terrifying.

You may wonder, "Is this even possible, and is it possible for me?" Looking around at friends, colleagues, and family members, you might struggle to identify role models who have truly trusted themselves rather than simply following conventional wisdom. This isn't surprising. Most of us have been programmed to follow established paths rather than to forge our own.

But ask yourself this: Are the people who've followed all the rules truly happy? Or are they, like so many of us, feeling stuck, unfulfilled, and wondering if there's something more?

Understanding Your Paradigms: The Hidden Force Controlling Your Results

As Bob Proctor, a pioneer in personal development, has taught us, what's holding you back isn't a lack of ability—it's your paradigms. These mental programs operate in your subconscious mind and control nearly all your habitual behavior.

Think about it: Your current results in life—your income, relationships, health, and overall satisfaction—are a direct reflection of these paradigms. Results always tell the truth, even when we don't want to hear it.

The challenge is that most of these paradigms were installed in your mind when you were young, before you had the capacity to evaluate them critically. Parents, teachers, media, and early experiences all contributed to these mental programs that now run automatically. You didn't choose them, but they're controlling your life nonetheless.

When you say, "Trust in yourself," what you're really talking about is reclaiming your power from these outdated paradigms. It's about replacing limiting beliefs with empowering ones that serve your growth and happiness.

Why Most People Never Change

Why do so many intelligent, capable people remain stuck in careers, relationships, or lifestyles that don't fulfill them? The answer lies in understanding the dynamics of change:

1. The Comfort Zone Trap: Even when we're unhappy, the familiar feels safe. Our paradigms create a comfort zone that, while restrictive, feels predictable and therefore "safe" to our subconscious mind.

2. Social Resistance: When you begin to change, the people around you often resist. They want you to stay the same because your evolution forces them to question their own choices. As you begin trusting yourself, be prepared for some pushback from those who benefit from you remaining as you are.

3. Lack of Proper Support: Transformation requires guidance. Just as you wouldn't attempt to perform surgery on yourself, navigating a significant paradigm shift benefits enormously from experienced support.

4. The Gap Between Knowledge and Application: Many people know what they should do but fail to apply it consistently. Information alone doesn't create transformation—implementation does.

Practical Steps to Build Self-Trust and Transform Your Life

1. Recognize Your Current Paradigms

The first step toward change is awareness. Start paying attention to the recurring thoughts and beliefs that shape your decisions:

• What "truths" do you accept without question?

• What limitations do you believe apply to you?

• What stories do you tell yourself about why you can't have what you want?

These are clues to the paradigms operating beneath the surface. By bringing them into conscious awareness, you begin to loosen their grip.

2. Create New Morning Routines

The early morning hours offer a powerful opportunity to reprogram your mind. Before checking emails or news, which often trigger stress and negativity:

• Practice 5-10 minutes of meditation focused on positivity and self-trust

• Write down 10 things you're grateful for

• Affirm who you're becoming, not just who you've been

• Visualize yourself living as the person you want to be

This practice is simple but transformative when done consistently. It's also easy not to do—which is precisely why most people don't experience the benefits.

3. Protect Your Mental Environment

Your mind is constantly absorbing information that reinforces or challenges your paradigms:

• Limit exposure to negative news that triggers fear and helplessness

• Consciously choose books, podcasts, and conversations that support your growth

• Spend time with people who believe in possibilities rather than limitations

• Create visual reminders of your goals and the person you're becoming

Remember, your subconscious mind doesn't distinguish between what's vividly imagined and what's real. Use this to your advantage by consistently feeding it empowering images.

4. Take Progressive Action

Trust grows through action. Start with small steps that stretch your comfort zone:

• Identify one area where you've been playing small

• Take one action today that aligns with your larger vision

• Acknowledge your progress, no matter how small it seems

• Learn from setbacks rather than using them as evidence of limitation

Each time you take action despite fear, you build evidence that you can trust yourself.

5. Develop New Habits That Support Your Vision

Your daily habits either reinforce old paradigms or build new ones:

• Identify habits that keep you stuck (mindless scrolling, procrastination, negative self-talk)

• Replace them with habits that support your growth

• Start with one habit change and master it before adding more

• Use the power of consistency—small actions repeated daily create massive results

Overcoming Resistance on Your Journey

As you begin trusting yourself and daring to be who you want to be, you'll encounter resistance—both internal and external. This is normal and actually signals that you're making progress.

Internal resistance often shows up as:

• Self-doubt ("Who am I to want this?")

• Fear of failure ("What if I can't do it?")

• Fear of success ("What if my life changes too much?")

External resistance might come from:

• Well-meaning family who worry about your security

• Colleagues who feel threatened by your growth

• A society that rewards conformity over authenticity

The key is not to eliminate resistance but to develop strategies for moving forward despite it. This is where having proper support becomes crucial. Surrounding yourself with people who have successfully navigated similar transformations provides both practical guidance and emotional reinforcement when challenges arise.

The Transformation Process: What to Expect

Changing paradigms isn't always comfortable, but understanding the process can help you navigate it more effectively:

1. Awareness: Recognizing limiting paradigms and consciously choosing new beliefs

2. Disruption: Experiencing discomfort as old patterns are challenged

3. Practice: Consistently implementing new thoughts and behaviors

4. Integration: Gradually embodying your new paradigm until it becomes automatic

5. Results: Seeing tangible improvements in your external circumstances

This process isn't linear—you'll cycle through these stages repeatedly as you continue to grow. The key is persistence and compassion for yourself throughout the journey.

Living an Authentic Life: The Ultimate Reward

When you truly trust yourself and dare to be who you want to be, you experience benefits that extend far beyond external achievements:

• Inner Peace: The relief of living in alignment with your true values

• Authentic Relationships: Deeper connections based on who you really are

• Expanded Impact: The ability to contribute your unique gifts without holding back

• Genuine Fulfillment: Satisfaction that comes from expressing your potential

Most importantly, you become a living example that inspires others to trust themselves too. Your courage creates permission for those around you to pursue their own authentic paths.

Your Next Step: From Inspiration to Transformation

Reading about these concepts is valuable, but true transformation requires more than information—it requires a structured approach and supportive community.

This is precisely why we've created the "Thinking into Results" program. Based on decades of research and proven success with thousands of participants worldwide, this 24-week program provides the framework, tools, and support you need to truly transform your paradigms and create the results you desire.

Unlike quick-fix approaches, Thinking into Results addresses the root causes of why you haven't yet achieved what you want, giving you both the understanding and practical methods to create lasting change.

If you're ready to trust yourself and dare to be who you want to be—not just as an inspiring concept but as your lived reality—I invite you to take the next step.

Book a call today at www.thinkingintogrowth.com/book to discover how this program can help you break through the paradigms that have been holding you back and create the life you truly desire.

Remember, the best way to predict your future is to create it—and that begins with trusting yourself enough to try.

Best Regards,
Claes Valberg