Trust in Yourself and Dare to Be What You Want to Be

The Courage to Transform Your Life

Have you ever looked at your life and wondered, "Is this all there is?" That nagging feeling that you're meant for something more—something that aligns with who you truly are, not just who you've been told to be?

That's such a powerful statement: "Trust in yourself and dare to be what you want to be." It sounds simple, yet it represents one of the most profound journeys you can undertake in your lifetime. It's about believing in your potential, even when the path ahead feels uncertain or when others question your choices.

When you hear this phrase, you may think these are just big words. You might wonder, "Is this even possible, and more importantly, is it possible for me?" This skepticism is natural—after all, most of us haven't witnessed many examples of people truly trusting themselves in our immediate circles.

The Paradigms That Control Us

As Bob Proctor taught, we are all living according to paradigms—mental programs that have almost exclusive control over our habitual behavior. And since almost all of our behavior is habitual, these paradigms essentially control our lives.

These paradigms weren't created by you. They were formed in your early childhood and reinforced throughout your life by parents, teachers, friends, media, and society at large. They control:

• Your perception (which becomes your reality)

• Your use of time

• Your creativity

• Your effectiveness

• Your logic

• Your ability to earn money

When you make up your mind to change a paradigm—to truly understand it and transform it—the walls that have been constraining you begin to come down. And the beautiful truth is that this change can be permanent when you learn how to effectively shift your paradigms.

The Challenge of Breaking Free

Most people have done what they were told to do their entire lives! They followed the expected path: go to school, get a job, work hard, retire. But ask yourself honestly—are these people genuinely happy? Do they wake up excited about their lives?

Much of what we accept as common understanding has been shaped by institutional forces—historically by religious institutions and more recently by governments and corporate interests. We believe these things are true because we've heard them repeated countless times. But are they actually true for you as an individual? This is worth contemplating deeply.

How can you genuinely evaluate the concept of "trusting yourself" if you've never tried it? If you ask people around you about making a significant change in your life, they'll likely try to talk you out of it! They want you to remain the same because your transformation would make them uncomfortable and force them to question their own choices.

The Reality of Transformation

Trusting yourself can be a game-changer, especially when confronting difficult decisions or challenges. It's like giving yourself the permission and confidence to take risks and believe in your abilities to go all in!

But let's be honest—this journey isn't always comfortable. When you begin to trust yourself and make choices that align with your true desires rather than others' expectations, you'll face resistance. This resistance comes not only from others but often from within yourself, from the old paradigms fighting to maintain control.

Who will you turn to for emotional support when facing this resistance? Having a mentor or coach who understands this process can make all the difference. That's why I've created a space where you can find that support. You can book a meeting to learn more by visiting thinkingintogrowth.com/fear.

The Power of Your Results

As Bob Proctor often said, "Results always tell the truth." The results you're currently experiencing in your life reflect your current paradigms with complete accuracy. If you're not satisfied with those results, that's actually good news—because it means you've identified an area where paradigm change is needed.

Whatever situation you find yourself in right now might be the perfect time to cultivate trust from within and develop the confidence that you really can create the life you desire. This isn't about wishful thinking—it's about making a committed decision and then aligning your thoughts and actions with that decision.

Creating New Routines for a New Life

Transformation is, at its core, about establishing new and better routines and habits to support your new life. When you begin implementing these routines, you'll naturally feel more confident.

Early in the morning, before eating or even getting out of bed, you might find yourself in a more negative mood, questioning your abilities and decisions. This is precisely the right time to plan a meditation focused on positivity and trust. Speak affirming words to yourself, and write a list of approximately ten things you're grateful for. This practice is simple yet powerful, but it's also easy to neglect. Make a commitment to yourself to follow through, because it will significantly elevate your emotional state.

Another critical aspect of this process is to minimize exposure to negative news. The events reported in the media are typically things you have no control over, yet they can profoundly impact your positive mindset. Choose carefully what you allow into your consciousness.

The Four Pillars of Authentic Living

When you decide to trust yourself and dare to be what you want to be, you're embracing four essential principles:

1. Embrace Authenticity

Don't be afraid to be your true self, even if it differs from others' expectations. Authenticity means honoring your values, preferences, and aspirations—even when they diverge from conventional paths. Remember that your uniqueness is your strength, not a liability.

2. Chase Your Aspirations

Actively work toward the goals and dreams that you hold dear. This means clarifying what you truly want (not what others want for you) and taking consistent action in that direction. Your aspirations are the compass that guides your journey toward fulfillment.

3. Overcome Limitations

Challenge self-doubt and external pressures that might hold you back. This requires recognizing when you're operating from limiting beliefs and consciously choosing different thoughts and actions. The limitations that seem most insurmountable are often the ones most worth confronting.

4. Take Action

It's not enough to just dream; you must take concrete steps to make your aspirations a reality. Action dissolves fear and builds confidence. Even small steps, taken consistently, create momentum toward your largest goals. As Bob Proctor taught, successful people make decisions quickly and change them slowly, if at all.

Changing Your Paradigms, Changing Your Results

The truth is, we are constantly creating or disintegrating—there's no standing still in life. If you're not intentionally creating and improving, you're falling behind. And if you're falling behind, it's probably not by choice but because you lack awareness in certain areas.

As Bob Proctor emphasized, if we want to grow, we must change. Change is both implied and necessary when we develop as individuals. Have you felt resistance to change lately? This resistance often comes from paradigms that are comfortable with the status quo, even if the status quo isn't serving your highest good.

The beautiful truth is that you and I can create our own income, our own economy, and our own life experiences. While many people don't believe this is possible—and I certainly didn't for a long time—it's nevertheless true. We are constantly bombarded with messages about economic conditions, recessions, and why certain achievements are "impossible." But we rarely stop to question whether this information is relevant or trustworthy, or whether it has anything to do with what we're trying to accomplish.

What truly matters is what we think about and believe, which directly influences the steps we take toward our goals. Our thinking should align more with our internal values and desires and less with external circumstances and limitations.

From Impossibility to Achievement

Many things we take for granted today were once considered impossible—flying, traveling to the moon, or even the technology behind cell phones. What seems impossible often only demands extra hard work or very hard work, but it's seldom truly impossible.

How much work are you willing to invest to reach your goals or dreams? This question reveals your level of commitment to your aspirations. When you're genuinely committed, you'll find ways to overcome obstacles that would stop others in their tracks.

The best way to determine what to change is to examine the results you're getting that you don't like and work backward from there. This assessment process helps you identify the specific paradigms that need shifting and the new habits that need forming.

Finding Support on Your Journey

A very effective way to navigate this transformation is to join a community of like-minded individuals and engage with structured training like our "Thinking into Results" program. This program provides the mindset, structure, and processes to help you make the necessary changes and improvements you're seeking.

When you set your own goals with the support of our program, I can show you the path to confidently achieve them. This could lead to creating your own income, building your own financial security, and finally doing what you've wanted to do for a long time.

If you're ready to trust yourself and dare to be what you want to be, I invite you to book a call to learn more: www.thinkingintogrowth.com/fear

In summary, trusting yourself and daring to be what you want to be is a call to live with purpose, passion, and authenticity. It's not always easy, but it's invariably worth it. The world needs more people who have come alive through living their truth.

Best Regards,
Claes Valberg